August 27, 2010

Minimizing the Effects of Divorce on Children

Posted in Divorce tagged at 6:16 pm by demetriagraves

As a Family law attorney one of the most common concerns I hear about is how a divorce will affect the children. Kids are often excited about new things, but one thing that they certainly don’t get excited over is new parents. A divorce takes a toll on everyone involved, but most especially on the child. A divorce not only brings an end to the family, but can also leave a child feeling lonely and confused. The experience of going through a divorce can be a nightmare for a child, the feeling of absence of a stable family structure that one can no longer take comfort in. As a family law attorney my goal is to help you arrive at an amicable divorce that seeks to minimize as much as possible the negative impact on the child.

A couple’s decision to divorce is perplexing for the child. A child always seeks love and support from his parents. The parents are his first point of reference and he always tries to emulate their actions. Witnessing an ongoing conflict between his parents may leave a child with a constant feeling of instability and tension in their life.

Child custody issues often play a significant role in most divorces. There are two types of child custody. Legal custody empowers one of the guardians to make important decisions regarding the upbringing of the child. That parent can influence decisions about the education and religion of the child. The second type is physical custody, which involves the possession of the child. Physical custody can be joint, meaning that the child spends considerable time with both the parents. As a family law attorney I can also assist in grandparents’ visitation rights.

The decision to obtain a divorce can wreak havoc in the lives of the separating spouses. Walking away from a relationship with someone who has been such a constant presence in your life can be frightening and upsetting, even if it’s ultimately the best thing to do under the present circumstances. Divorce is a legal process and therefore requires the expertise of a family law attorney. The most common way of obtaining a divorce is to file for litigation. However, this can be a very expensive and time-consuming exercise. The extensive documentation process and the hefty legal charges can drain your bank account as well as your energy.

The decision that results from litigation may at times not be acceptable to either party. This can cause yet another rift in the relationship, and the tension can linger even after the judgment. For most divorcing couples, a mediative or uncontested divorce is preferable over traditional litigation. This enables both the parties to calmly discuss issues like spousal support and property distribution in a less intimidating forum rather than battling things out in the courtroom. As a family law attorney I am very experienced in mediative divorce and I’ll manage the negotiation process. Even if your divorce ends up involving more traditional litigation, I can help guide you through the process and ensure that your divorce is as smooth as possible.

No matter what your concerns might be regarding divorce, please come and see me for a free confidential initial consultation. You can get all your questions answered and any concerns addressed. Many people say that going through a divorce is one of the most challenging experiences in their lives. This is why it’s so important to have some expert advice.


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